Wedding planning with your partner

I find there is generally 2 scenarios - the couple where 1 person is more into the planning and details than the other, or the couple that argue and butt heads about every detail. Lets face it, it is really difficult to plan a wedding alone even with the help of your friends and family. It's important to make sure that your big day reflects both of you as a couple and one person doesn't feel like they could just turn up in a suit or dress and 'just slot in'. In the cases where 1 person is more into the detail than the other, just make sure you've run everything past them; i'm sure they'll nod their head lovingly (even if they have no idea what's going on).

For those that butt heads on every detail, it's completely NORMAL.  The best thing to do is give each other different areas to focus on then each of you have different areas to organise, simply consulting the other along the way when you have some options. When we got married we were definitely in the 'butt heads' zone, each of us really passionate about each area of the wedding. So we agreed that Rich would focus on the food and alcohol which gave him enough to keep him occupied and left me free to go wild on the decor and all the other details and logistics. That way there was far less (but still some) arguments. I don't believe any couple that didn't argue at all when planning their wedding (guest list anyone??), but you have to compromise and understand that it's your partners big day too and they also deserve whatever they want.

I read this a lot but I think in the end, it's important to think about the bigger picture and remember the reason why you're getting married. Yes, planning a wedding is stressful no matter how big or small but remember that the marriage itself is the most important thing so don't sweat the 'small' stuff and enjoy it!

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The most important budget item...the Photographer

No matter the wedding budget, big or small, one of the most difficult things is how to divide it up. There are the obvious things like the venue which will take up a large portion of the cost then there are areas where you can save; DIY decor for example, changing the type of flower you're using (see our tips on this). At Lula&Rye you know we love a DIY wedding however there is one thing that I would suggest you never scrimp on...the photographer. Of course you have the memories of the day and you’ll feel so proud of all the things you pull together and all the DIYs that you put so much love and attention to however the photographs are the one tangible memory that will take you back to that moment and you want that to be beautiful. For that reason alone, this is one area where you should not be looking to save money. I promise this is a cost that you won’t regret! Importantly, do your research. Look through blogs and find styles that you love, photographers will often be willing to travel as long as you pay their expenses so don't let their location put you off. It's also important that you get on with the photographer, as they are capturing such a special day in your life you need to have a great connection and feel comfortable around them.

There are so many amazing wedding photographers out there which makes the decision even harder but it’s important to find someone whose style you adore and that will ensure you get the shots that you want.

Here are a few of my faves recently...

Benjamin Wheeler Wedding Photography

Benjamin Wheeler Photography

Benjamin Wheeler Photography

Benjamin Wheeler Photography

Sophie Richardson Photography

Sophie Richardson

Sophie Richardson

Sophie Richardson  Sophie Richardson

Eva Photography

Eva Photography

Eva Photography

Eva Photography

Eva Photography

...You're welcome.

L+R

 

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This will forever have a place in my heart as this was our first dance song! Not only is it a great song that made sure everyone was ready to get on the dance floor but was also an ode to Rich’s dad who loved a bit of Motown

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WEDDING SONG OF THE DAY: JAMES BAY - IF YOU EVER WANT TO BE IN LOVE

Today I am on one week countdown until the festivities begin so HAPPY FRIDAY!!

I have only just discovered this AMAZING guy, and I am absolutely obsessed, his voice is heavenly, think James Morrison but more powerful and a little bit less Marlborough Reds gravel = perfection. This song is beautiful and upbeat with a lovely sentiment, perfect for a wedding.

Enjoy x

L+R

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WEDDING SONG OF THE DAY: BEN HOWARD - ONLY LOVE

A great choice for anyone who wants a bit of slow music on the day, we are making a playlist for our afternoon tea and songs like this are perfect!

Happy Bank Holiday weekend everyone in the UK!

L+R

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WEDDING SONG OF THE DAY: THE CARDIGANS - LOVE FOOL

I feel like i’m having a bit of a moment with the 90s right now, another one which will take you back to watching Romeo and Juliet when Leo had such a baby face! Such a tune and I tried to persuade hubby to be to let me have this as our first dance as it’s upbeat and pretty unusual but I don’t think he’s on board

L+R

Sorry guys I have to admit there has been so much going on recently I have fallen behind on my posts! Promise to have some more exciting posts for you soon! 

L+R

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WEDDING SONG OF THE DAY: SIXPENCE NONE THE RICHER - KISS ME

An absolute 90s classic and the epitome of the 90s romcom film, one of my favourites ‘She’s all that’. A great addition to the wedding playlist or first dance

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WEDDING SONG OF THE DAY: MARVIN GAYE & TAMMI TERRELL - YOU’RE ALL I NEED TO GET BY

One for the Motown soul inside you, beautiful song with a great climax

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WEDDING SONG OF THE DAY: LUPE FIASCO FT ED SHEERAN - OLD SCHOOL LOVE

I’m always a fan of a wedding song that is a little more up beat than it’s slow love song counterparts, and this is a really lovely one by Lupe Fiasco and Ed Sheeran whose voice I adore. Perfect for a relaxed wedding affair

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WEDDING SONG OF THE DAY: TOM ODELL - GROW OLD WITH ME

This one has a bit of a faster beat so is good for an up beat first dance instead of the standard rock side to side, again another ‘out of the box’ song which I don’t think you would be bored of hearing at a wedding but the sentiment is beautiful and just perfect for a country/rustic wedding

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WEDDING SONG OF THE DAY: NEXT - WIFEY

The perfect RnB first dance song, this is definitely going in my wedding playlist for the night but bless him I don’t think my husband to be would be able to comfortably grind with me on the dance floor in front of our family to this

L+R

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WEDDING SONG OF THE DAY: PAOLO NUTINI - BETTER MAN

This is a super romantic song and is only on Paolo Nutini’s recently released album so I don’t think you will be hearing it loads on the wedding circuit this summer. The words are stunning and his voice is equally as incredible. I think this would be a tear jerker

L+R

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WEDDING SONG OF THE DAY: AL GREEN - LET’S STAY TOGETHER

There is a special place in my heart for Mo town, I love that it has soul and always manages to make me feel good whatever my mood. If you fancied going a bit more classic for a first dance, this is a lovely one and perfect wedding lyrics

"Let me say that since, baby, since we’ve been together
Loving you forever is what I need
Oh let me be the one you come running to
I’ll never be untrue”

Could you ask for better lyrics in a first dance song?

L+R

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WEDDING SONG OF THE DAY: CYNDI LAUPER - TIME AFTER TIME

When I thought of this song, I just had to add the Romy and Michele’s High School Reunion video version rather than the official video, it takes me way back!

This is a great alternative for first dance, and you can totally take inspiration from this video for some moves!

L+R

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WEDDING SONG OF THE DAY: JOHN LEGEND - ALL OF ME

I may be slightly jumping on the Kimye band wagon after John Legend sang this live at their wedding but I think this song is so beautiful! This is actually in contention for our first dance song, obviously won’t quite be the same as having him sing it live but hey-ho!

L+R

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WEDDING TRACK OF THE DAY: ELLIE GOULDING - BEATING HEART

Adore this track, it’s so dreamy, another unorthodox song for the first dance or just nice in the playlist pack!

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